Kaffy, a 45-year-old lady, once shared in an interview that a man told her he couldn’t consider dating her because she is a single mother of two.
On the other hand, Tiwa, also 45, openly said she wouldn’t date a single father because she wants more children of her own.
Now read this slowly, notice the difference in reactions?
When women say they don’t want single fathers, it’s called a preference, and she deserves it.
When men say they don’t want single mothers, it’s called sham!ng
The same phenomenon occurs in relationships and marriages.
When a woman walks away, it’s called freedom.
When a man walks away, he’s called irresponsible.
Kaffy raised an important question: What makes you think that a divorced woman who has worked on herself is not even a better candidate?
Now, let’s come down to the ultimate reality: whether man or woman, having children from a previous marriage does affect choices. I love single parents, but for a long time, we have avoided telling them the truth.
Statistics show that around 70% of second marriages end in divorce, meaning being married once or twice doesn’t guarantee lessons were learned.
Single parents deserve respect. But if divorced men and women truly believe they are better options, the most natural pairing would be with each other. Many don’t choose that path because deep down, they know change is not always as simple as it sounds.
So if you’re single and making a choice, it’s wiser to be with someone without children. Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for having preferences. They wouldn’t even look at you or give you a chance if they were in your shoes.
Tiwa wants a single man to choose her, but she doesn’t want to choose someone like herself. That’s how it works
Dayo Aderinto
